Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick's Wise Advice
Relationship and Intimacy Coach Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick offers some great advice.
Today, a friend sent me the message “This seems like your kind of thing” along with this post from Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick’s Instagram feed.
My friend was correct. It’s my kind of thing. I liked the messaging.
Much of Dr. Fedrick’s post aligns nicely with a past piece of mine, “Clean Slate Sex.”
My theory when I undertook my experiment was that wiping to the best of my ability the board/slate in my own mind clean of my sexual list and preconceived notions about my erotic options might improve my sex life. Perhaps consciously avoiding snap judgments that summed up someone based entirely on a few seconds of seeing them and having them list their dos and don’ts could, in theory, give me a fresh perspective on sex. I gave it a try and the results were heartening.
I navigate within a world of sexual and kink adventurers. I love that world. It feeds me in profound ways, and it’s been at the core of much of my social life and relationships. But sometimes that world seems awash in an abundance of rules, constraints, preconceived notions, performative peacockery, constant upskilling, and judgment.
No, those things don’t make up the majority of that world, but they do so enough that it too often flies in the face of clean slate sex and also of Dr. Fedrick’s wise advice.
Initially, I was going to elaborate with commentary about each of Dr. Fedrick’s “Sex becomes better when…” points, but that started to get lengthy and repetitive. I think her wording stands alone and I hope my readers take it to heart.
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